The role of the husband in raising children and family life.

I don't like my five-year-old daughter's longing for motherhood, she's directly attracted to any little child, and she talks about the names she will choose for her children when she grows up!! The woman generates within her the instinct of motherhood from birth, and continues with her until she grows up, and therefore you find her caring for the bride and describe her hair and wear it, and then sit her younger brothers, all this during her natural development to be a mother one day, but the man is different, the man cares more about the working life and cars And games and friends and personal achievements, so we find many couples suffer from the adherence to the rules of the house, education and children, how do you help your husband to establish rules that make it easier for him to understand responsibility and its obligations and consequences?

O together from the beginning.

good news...There's a pregnancy and a happy baby waiting for him in nine months?

So start by involving your husband from day one what you feel during pregnancy, without showing a recital or a lot of complaints, tell him about some of the feelings and pains you feel, read with him the book of pregnancy, and talk together about the child and names and how your way of raising and dealing with the responsibilities of the child will be and crying At night and the like, take your husband on shopping trips for the child and the requirements of his room, talk to him about the importance of going with you to the doctor and certainly his presence and his moral and psychological support on the day of birth, all of which contribute psychologically to the father's attachment to the child waiting before coming to life.

O Father is a role model.

The mother is a symbol of the family and all that represents her, but the father remains the last line that the mother resorts to when she is unable to act or needs some decisiveness and firmness that the father always provides of course, and it is a fact that is always absent from our minds that the greatest means of education is education by example, the actions of the father and mother even in life They are their daily behaviors and what they do even away from the eyes of their children, or what they imagine that they do not notice, affects more than we imagine in the children, and constitutes many of their values, ideas and personalities, so even if the circumstances judge the father not to be very much with his children, his behaviors that they see and hear about At work and with friends and friends, his life and the way he deals, and his reactions with the mother and with them, greatly affects their upbringing in a balanced or otherwise way, so both parents should realize the importance of role models, which is also a good opportunity to challenge the self and change bad habits that may negatively affect the life of Their children.

O Be a real part of their lives.

1. We usually see children rushing towards the mother in difficult situations, and this is not proof that they love her more, but because she is the one who is there to support and listen to what they feel, and learn the details of their lives, some parents may be upset by this fact, but you do not reap what is not cultivated!!.. So before it's too late to be a real contributor to their lives as much as possible, feel them with interest, love and tenderness, and this is not contrary in any way to your manhood, do not miss important occasions in their lives, such as honors, tournaments, graduation ceremonies, etc. Any class they are, the names of their teachers, their favorite material, their colour and their favorite hobby.

2- Try to reconcile the situation according to your personality and time in order to give them time to sit and talk to them freely and openly in any subject that comes to your mind, and do not mind that you bear the burden of studying for certain subjects even if one day a week is a vacation for her, and an opportunity to take care of herself a little bit? It's also okay to read them a useful book that you meet to talk about it and exchange ideas, or take them for a walk on your own every once in a while you get to know them more, and feel that you are a real participant and a key player in the field, and not just a financier sitting on the reserve bench, or a referee for the game intervenes only to scream or criticize when shape, or to cheer at the time of success to reap the fruits he did not participate in planting.

O Be there.

1- Take care of the lives of your children understand your mark in this world, especially in adolescence, the adolescence needs preparation and plan, in addition to many compromises, flexibility, understanding and feeling of adolescence, and the presence of the father is a separation part necessary and essential to overcome this stage safely.

2- It is also important to realize dear father that attention and emotional communication, especially with your daughters, is essential in their psychological development, women in general have a great interest in those who show them feelings of friendliness, attention and follow-up, and in order to protect your daughters from falling prey to every sweet tongue, you should offer the alternative, So you have to build a strong friendship with your daughters, and always feel them caring, tender, kind and generous, it doesn't mean you don't do it with your boys, but the girl is more interested and influenced by the emotional side.

O We're one unit.

Agree with your husband to be one unit, education is very difficult and we do not need to make it more difficult without a doubt, your agreement or agreement on one method of education or fixed positions that you agree on is essential, so that one of you does not destroy what the other builds, and so that the difference in style does not create a conflict in the minds of the children about The concept of right and wrong, which causes a direct disruption in their lives.

O Cruelty is unacceptable.

1- I know that beating and screaming is an easy way to raise. But it's actually a failed way! There is no doubt that the firmness and education on the foundations, rules and system on which all family members feel safe and makes education much easier, so the method of insult, shouting, constant criticism, beatings, cruelty or unjustified dealing, such as favoring one child over another or using the method of comparisons in education, or attention One of his brothers for his illness or being the weakest, are methods that always appear to fail over time.

2- Therefore, the return of the father from work tired and tired and bored of the traffic of the road and the high cost of living, or the existence of family or other differences, is not a real justification for the father to enter into a tantrum to burn green and dry, and then return to apologize when he calms down, if you feel angry or emotional, go out to another place and calm down Mama before going home, or enter the room and close yourself to the door, so that you can rest in your natural state that enables you to deal with them fairly, wisely and wisely.

O Material giving.

Parents are the symbol of giving, and as there is the moral aspect of giving, which is tenderness, kindness, attention, follow-up and respect for children, there is also the material aspect which is less important, but also important, your children always need you and your support, so there is nothing wrong with allocating them a monthly allowance From a young age, it helps them understand the meaning of money, the value of savings and the disadvantages of waste, and guides them to how to manage their lives financially well.
Some of this money may be for some of the work they do, and help them understand the fact that money comes only with effort, such as washing the car or throwing garbage every day, cleaning walls or otherwise, and sometimes it may require you to steer in the right direction if you see them mismanaging money and a tendency to extravagance and recital.
There is also no objection to giving them some gifts that they love, to bring pleasure to their hearts, and to make them feel that you care about what they love, spending on them does not spare you from human contact with them by asking or gifting like any friend you love! Some fathers may see that they still have a desire to give, so they continue in this way even after marriage, giving their daughters a monthly allowance that serves as a help to them in the burdens of their lives, or as a personal thing to buy for them, or in the life of their male children in the form of gifts for them or their family.

You have to realize dear father that fatherhood is a responsibility, honor and a title that will not be taken away from you even if your children grow up and get married and bring you the little grandchildren, but will remain for them a symbol to restore in the most important moments of their lives, to guide them to the right path what remains in this life.